Because self-care is extra important when you can’t or don’t want to come out.
Sometimes you're all the way closeted; sometimes you're out to some people and not others; and for many people, you have to keep coming out in some way or another for most of your life. To help deal, we asked members of the BuzzFeed Community how they take care of their mental health as an LGBT person in the closet. Here are little things you can do — no matter what being in the closet looks like to you.
Wear ~subtle queer things~ that people like you will recognize — but other people probably won’t.
“If you can get away with it, it’s super fun to wear/display queer-coded things that The Straights don’t catch, but might stand out to other queer and trans folks and give you a touching, if silent, connection throughout the day. For example, I’m on the hunt for some trans flag earrings that I can wear to work. It really helps to show my pride in little ways like that.”
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Say it out loud to yourself when you know people won’t hear you.
“A thing that I do sometimes when I’m in my house or at a family gathering is just whisper, 'I’m gay' to myself when I know nobody will hear me. It helps me relieve some stress a little bit because it FEELS like I’m coming out, but I’m not, so the danger is gone and only the freeing feeling of being myself is left.”